Category Archives: Relations

Improve Your Relationship with a Simple Adjustment to Your Expectations

Patrick Allan

Good relationships are a balance of give and take. By adjusting your expectations even just a small amount, you can strengthen your relationships tremendously.

People wouldn’t develop relationships with each other if both parties didn’t get something out of it. It could be love, support, or even friendship. Relationship problems arise, however, when someone’s expectations aren’t being met. Stephen Guise , the author of Mini Habits, suggests that the best way to fix and avoid those problems, is to adjust your own expectations:

…expect to receive less and expect to give more. Giving more will increase your value to the other person, while expecting less will make you far less likely to be disappointed in them… Imagine two people in a romantic or friend relationship who both decide to give more than they receive to the other. Their admiration, trust, and respect for one another will grow, and the relationship will thrive, because when you give more and expect less, you increase your value and decrease your burden to the other person.

The adjustment is slight, but it can create a world of difference. The little things that grated on you before aren’t as bad because you’re no longer looking for perfection in someone. And you make things better for the other party by giving just a little extra effort. Take your newly adjusted expectations and do your best to keep things exciting, and your relationship might go the distance.

 

How to get your boss to love you

Elizabeth Garone
You will probably receive antiquated advice. Don’t protest. (Credit: Alamy)

They may be numerous, but they’re not your boss — yet.

Millennials are now the largest generation in the US workforce. In another decade, they will comprise 75% of the world’s workers. But this generation, also known as Gen Y and born between 1982 and 1992 (give or take a few years, depending on the country), is not yet in charge. For years to come, many will have bosses from an earlier generation, who still remember telephones with cords, the Rolodex and handwritten thank you notes.

Impressing those older bosses and learning from their feedback and guidance is crucial. Here’s what five workplace gurus suggest millennials can do to bridge the intergenerational divide.
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How to Know When to Give Up on a Debate That’s Going Nowhere

Patrick Allan

How to Know When to Give Up on a Debate That’s Going Nowhere

Some debates seem to explode into mindless arguments where nobody is willing to even try and see eye to eye. To avoid wasting your time with these kinds of debates, here are some red flags to keep an eye out for, and how you might be able to salvage the discussion before backing out. Read more »

How to Control Your Temper Before You Lose It

Patrick Allan

How to Control Your Temper Before You Lose It

We all get angry sometimes, but if you’re prone to rage bursts that rival The Hulk, it can really damage your relationships and even ruin your career. Here are some tips for keeping your cool when your temper feels like a short fuse burning. Read more »

The Definitive Guide to Winning an Argument

Patrick Allan

The Definitive Guide to Winning an Argument

Winning isn’t everything, but it sure is nice. When you don’t see eye to eye with someone, here are the best tricks for winning that argument.

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