Category Archives: Relations

How to Increase Your Influence at Work

How do I know if I’m mansplaining?

Is it really so hard to tell the difference between condescending or simply explaining-while-male?

Here’s a simple chart to help you decide:

The science of “hangry” — how low blood sugar makes you a monster

This is what happens when Bruce Banner skips breakfast. Ferdaus Shamim/Getty Images

You may have heard the term “hangry” before — the word for the state of being both hungry and angry. As in: “I’m so hangry that I yelled at my boss. Someone please pass me a banana.”

there’s a growing body of evidence that being hangry is a real thing

But it’s not just weird slang. There’s a growing body of scientific evidence that being hangry is a completely real thing — and that low blood sugar leads to bad behavior.

Case in point: in a study published in 2014 in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, researchers showed that married couples get increasingly angry and mean towards one another when their blood sugar is low.

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Seven Destructive Habits that Kill Solid Communication

Seven Destructive Habits that Kill Solid Communication

Kristin Wong

Your partner drops the ball and forgets to pay rent on time. You’re hit with a late fee. The practical thing to do? Come up with a solution so it doesn’t happen again. But you’re angry, so instead, you criticize your partner, and a fight erupts. Criticizing is one of seven common habits that can destroy healthy communication.

We all know how important communication is to just about any relationship. Unfortunately, it doesn’t always come easy. Psychiatrist William Glasser came up with the concept of the “seven deadly habits” of communication. In basic terms, the idea is that most of us have a handful of habits we’re accustomed to, and those habits are destructive to our relationships. If we can reframe them and choose better habits (what he called the “seven caring habits”), we can improve our communication, and therefore, our relationships.

Seven Destructive Habits that Kill Solid Communication

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Ask These Two Questions to Stop Relationship Bickering in Its Tracks

Vanessa Marin

Ask These Two Questions to Stop Relationship Bickering in Its Tracks

After a few years together, it’s easy to bicker with your partner over mundane stuff. Nitpicking each other about the minute details of daily life can feel involuntary—you know you’re being unreasonable and crabby, but it’s just so hard to stop yourself in the moment. Here’s one simple technique to stop bickering dead in its tracks. Read more »